Does my friend have an eating disorder? Anorexia Bulimia
How to help you overweight/obese child
You suspect your child has an eating disorder
What to do if you suspect your child has an eating disorder
Seek professional help immediately. Ask your pediatrician for a referral to an Eating Disorders Specialist. A specialist should be a licensed psychotherapist who has received specialized training in the field of eating disorders, and who understands the physical implications of eating disorders, and has a well-articulated plan for your child's treatment. He/she should also have a good working relationship with a licensed dietitian who is also educated in the field of eating disorders. Don't rely on your insurance plan to provide you with a referral to such a practitioner, ask the questions yourself.
Treat your child with compassion. Understand that eating disorders are a disease, not a willful act on your child's part. Say, "I know this must be hard for you, but we are going to work it out," as opposed to "you need to start eating or all your hair will fall out."
Don't threaten or cajole. Again, your child does not intend to be self-destructive; rather, she is stuck in a pattern of dysfunctional coping that is worsened by malnourishment. No one thinks clearly when undernourished.
Remember that your child is feeling badly about herself. Treatment is helped by stressing your unconditional love and concern. Children with eating disorders are very quick to perceive criticism even in innocent remarks. For example, "You aren't going to be allowed to go to the dance classes until you start eating," may be perceived as punishment for noncompliance. A better approach is, "I know it's disappointing that you can't go to dance right now, but I'm so proud that you are working on getting better."
Educate yourself about eating disorders. Here are some resources:
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